20s & Friendship

I honestly don’t know about anyone else but I feel like the older we get the less we reflect on valuing friendships. By “We” I mean my generation. Sure we get together for friends birthdays and special occasions but what about the regular days?

With women in particular I feel like altogether we focus on ourselves and oh yeah our man if we happen to have one. It was easier to get friends together when I was in high school and barely had $2.oo to my name. There are some friends who are down for the “turn up” every weekend and other friends who make excuse after excuse to not hang out…”oh I have to watch my cat” or the line I hear the most “I’m broke.” While I get everyone does not have the same financial situation….what happened to effort?

I am a true girlfriend (I value friendships, I careeeee0 and a woman’s woman. I love spending time with my friends and anyone who knows me knows I’m allllll for a girls night out (kick your man to the curb for a few hours lol). Life isn’t all about the turn up for me, I don’t even like clubs at this point…but the point I’m making is we need to make time for our friends. Have a breakfast date, do homework together, go to the park, catch a movie,etc. There are so many things to do with your friends. No matter how old we get we’ll always need quality company and good/ real friends.

So I challenge you grandma’s who make excuses to call your friends, hang out with them, love on them… we all need each other! Same thing goes for guys! You don’t want to look up one day and wonder where all your friendships went, step outside of yourself.

Wednesday Thoughts ❤

The Screw Up….

“It’s ok to screw up. We actually want you to screw up.” These are the words I heard at an interview today. I had asked the interviewer what does he expect from potential workers/ interns on the job. I was surprised to hear “it’s ok to screw up” because people don’t comfortably say that. That simple statement became profound to me and I began to reflect on my life.

I’ve always considered myself to be a “problem child”. I’ve always strived to do what’s right and have good character…somehow in some way I’ve fallen short several times. As a young child I often got in trouble for saying things I shouldn’t have said, I’ve made my teeth crooked from jumping off things and I’ve just made countless mistakes. As a teenager/ young adult I’ve looked well put together but somehow in some way I’ve made mistakes whether it was failing a class, dating the wrong person or being places I shouldnt have been.

Society puts this idea in our head that we need to be perfect or close to it. Society teaches us we need to be established and mature by a certain age.

I am a firm believer that I learn by trial and error. Today I thought about it and realized I’ll never be perfect, I’ll never have all the answers. It’s good to push myself to be a better person but I don’t have to apply major pressure to be perfect/ flawless. It’s ok to fall, admit I’ve been wrong, it’s ok to fail at some things….all of this is a part of the learning process. Your tombstone is really your diploma for life. We won’t stop learning until there is no longer life left in us.

I am full of life & I am proud to now admit I am a screw up lol…it doesn’t define all of who I am..yet it is a part of me &…..you. Embrace this learning process!! Live lifeee, have fun, strive for the best, no regrets…Happy Wednesday ❤

get out your feelings and….

get out your feelings and get sh** done.

Everyone has a different way they’d deal with life stressors. Some people like to shop it away, drink it away, dance it away,smoke it away, pray it away, cry it away, talk about it away etc. Whatever works for you, keep doing that! I am a firm believer that you are in charge of your own happiness. While others can try to steal your joy, they can’t really do it unless you let them.

 

How do you get yourself out of a funk?

Personally I don’t like to verbally vent to others because I feel like it’s unproductive. After I’ve expressed myself for the 100th time I just find myself sadder or more angry…which really defeats the purpose. you’re supposed to feel refreshed or better after you vent. I like to have more “me time”/ more time to reflect and gather how I am truly feeling. Reflection can be good but I can never just stay there. I can never just continue to reflect..I have to do something! and there it is…I get myself out of a funk by being productive/ giving to others. Often times we find ourselves feeling blue because we are focusing only on ourselves. There are times we need to all about self. There are times we need to look beyond ourselves. Give to someone who you don’t expect anything from. Give to someone just because. When I encourage you to give don’t get it twisted I don’t mean only material things. You can give by giving your time. What we put out is what will eventually come back to us.

 

The way to get out of a funk is to put out positive vibes, show love and be the light you want to return your way. Don’t try to pour from an empty cup, fill it up and pour out the loveeee to others.

Be a blessing. Peace, love & light!